Don't WANT It?

Be sure to go back and read all of the preceding articles in this series that started with, "SEE IT - WANT IT - GET IT" and follow through step by step. ESPECIALLY make sure you read the article right before this one because they definitely connect. 

I've actually met some people, in my lifetime, that have said that they truly have no desire for any improvement or change in and for their life. They were completely satisfied with where they were and, you know what? THAT'S O.K. These people that I'm talking about weren't lazy. They were simply satisfied with where they were in life.

But, I've ALSO talked to some people that said the same thing and they were barely getting by and their family (spouse, kids, etc.) was suffering because of this mentality and, yes, they WERE lazy and were satisfied with the government stepping in to help them barely survive.  Honestly, for the most part, THAT mentality is very difficult to overcome if it's possible at all. 

And, finally, I've heard people say that they "Don't Want It" ("it" being something better) because they didn't fully believe that "it" was really even possible for them. As talked about in the last article, they DON'T (or CAN'T) See 'IT" so they don't even really know if they want it. Why? YOU CAN'T WANT WHAT YOU CAN'T SEE and YOU CAN'T SEE WHAT YOU DON'T SEE!

 For many that find themselves in this situation that I mentioned in this last paragraph, there still seems to be "something" that burns within them that causes them to wonder if, indeed, they should even dream or desire of something better and if they COULD ever even possibly live their dream or desire.

YES, YOU CAN! 

Now, let's be real here. A lot of that does depend on some level of practicality, right? For example, I'm 66 years old and if I said my desire was to still play in the NBA then...uh...well, grandpa, you might want to sit down and us have a little talk! BUT, even at 66, if my desire is to have SOME sort of connection with the NBA then there might actually be some things that I might be able to accomplish and reach that goal and dream. (By the way, I don't have that desire). 

Fact is, too many are "afraid" to actually believe that it's possible. Maybe you've been told by family and friends that you just settle for "your lot in life" and don't expect anything better. Maybe you've expressed such a desire and were met with words such as, "Who are YOU to think you can do better? Who do you think you are??" and so, you just put that desire and dream back in the closet. 

Maybe - over the years - you've simply given up to where you CAN'T SEE IT any longer and, as a result, you DON'T WANT IT any longer.

So, yeah, just as this graphic states...WAKE UP and PAY ATTENTION!

I have been telling you - encouraging you - OFFERING you the opportunity for you to join my FREE community on Skool ("Finish What You Start") to join up with me PERSONALLY and to begin to get the help and guidance you likely need to REGAIN YOUR VISION and your FOCUS to move toward your dreams and desires. 

Now, I don't know that I've ever done this in my blog article but, I just stepped away from my writing and, when I sat back down to finish up, I felt a real "push" to share something with you spiritually. I'm not talking about the world's idea of "mystical/spiritual" but spiritual as in your souls relationship to God. I am a minister/preacher and I feel that there is someone - RIGHT NOW - reading this that NEEDS to hear this same idea/approach when it comes to your relationship with God because you have begun to feel that you CAN'T want something better in your relationship because you are a "failure" spiritually. 

Friend, listen to me...if that's you, that is a LIE FROM SATAN himself! I'm just going to share a link with you from a sermon I did just this past Sunday where I simply go through God's Word (the Bible) and share the thought of "Seeing Yourself Through God's Eyes". And, yes, I can help you with that as well. Here's the link:  https://youtube.com/live/bVkEV6unBVg?feature=share

Once again,  the ball is in your court - it's your CHOICE. 

 

As always..."Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

 

Mike

 

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Follow Your Dreams

You have likely heard something along these lines: "Follow your dreams or you will be fulfilling the dreams for someone else." Now, I know that's not an exact quote, but I think you get the idea.

Basically what is being said is this: You can either work on YOUR dreams or work for the dreams of someone else. Make YOUR dreams come true or stay busy making the dreams of someone else come true.

So, does that mean I quit working for someone else and pursue my dream?

Maybe, and maybe not.

What????

In my opinion, too many people get that kind of idea in their heads and end up living a miserable life while becoming discouraged along the way. Sure, there are SOME people that have taken that path that have done wonderful things and have been unbelievably successful. But, my guess is that, for every one of those, there are 100 that have suffered for making such a decision.

Perhaps YOU have been one of those people and it has caused you to "give up" on your dreams.  

DON'T!

It is very feasible, possible and realistic to pursue YOUR dreams while, yes, working for someone else. It has been done for years by thousands of people over time. 

Be THANKFUL (hey, that topic is coming up in the next article) that you have the ability to make a living and, perhaps, even set a little money back to be used to pursue your dream. What does it take and how long are you willing to work to make that dream become a reality?

Too many people become impatient in this process. Too many overestimate what they can do in the short term and underestimate what they can achieve in the long term. And, when they don't achieve what they have overestimated what they could do in the short term, they become frustrated and give up. 

What about you? Does this describe you?

Here's the thing, friend. Don't miss out on the JOURNEY while you keep working toward your "destination"! It has often been said that the journey IS the destination - or the "prize". 

Look around you! Find the good in every day, enjoy the journey along the way, keep your eyes on the goal and make progress - step by step - every single day. 

Thanks for allowing me to share with you today and, until next time, whatever you do, be sure to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike

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YOU Determine the Size of Your Dreams

Today is "Thankful Thursday" - think of all for which you have to be thankful and EXPRESS that thanks today!

I hope that you've been able to follow along with this week's podcast and blog articles as I've shared and discussed my 7 Daily Affirmations that I came up with back in the summer of 2008. Again, it is important for all of us to understand that the very first affirmation serves as the "building block" or foundational principle for all of the others that follow.

YES, it IS important for you to do this each and every day and as one of the first things you DO in your day. I also strongly suggest that you do this in front of a mirror if at all possible. You will be astounded at the impact of doing this while looking yourself in the eyes will have on you. Try it, you'll see what I mean.

Today I want to remind you of the fact that YOUR dreams are YOUR dreams! The actual affirmation goes like this: "I will not allow ANYONE to determine the size of my dreams! THEY ARE MINE!"

Sounds simple enough, right? Yet, too many have let their dreams go due to the influence of others around them. Others who did not DARE dream the big dreams but were more than ready to destroy the dreams of others. It happens every day and, friend, it has likely either happened to you or you are aware of those that have tried to do that with YOUR dreams. Remember, they are YOUR dreams and, that being so, no on - NO ONE - has the right or ability to decide how big they should be or what they should be!

This gets really difficult when the "dream stealer" is a family member - especially a spouse. I've read and heard others ask the question, "What do I do if my husband/wife..." and they go on to describe how their spouse is not only unsupportive but actually actively tries to destroy that dream.

I'll be honest with you...I don't have an answer for you on how you handle that. Some would suggest that you simply leave that spouse and move on without them and maybe even try to find someone else that would share in your dreams. However, I am a firm believer in marriage for life so I would suggest that you try to find another solution if at all possible. Now then, they may NEVER jump on board with you and your dreams and that will be when you really find out how important your dreams are to you as well as how strong your passion is for those dreams.

Too, I've noticed that some times - not in all situations but in more than most want to admit - the problem sometimes lies within the dreamer and their failure to bring their spouse along with them from the beginning. Hey, listen - if you are in a marriage, it is IMPORTANT that you share your hopes and dreams and that you share your desire to go after them. Right? Too many people keep these things to themselves and then spring some investment or whatever on their spouse "out of the blue". Hey, WHAT DO YOU EXPECT?

So, if you've already made the mistake of NOT bringing your spouse along with you or did not share with your spouse from the beginning then, friend, you have a problem on your hands to which you must find a solution.

But, bottom line, whatever you do, DO NOT allow others to destroy your dreams and convince you that you are dreaming too big and that you are not able to accomplish what you have set out to accomplish. (Go back and read and listen to the preceding affirmations on this).

DREAM BIG and make NO EXCUSES to those that lack the ability to dream. By all means, share with your spouse and make every effort to bring them along with you but know this: sometimes the life of a dreamer is a lonely life! But, again, this is when you discover how "real" and important your dreams are to you.

Just imagine what our world would be like if it weren't for the dreamers that never gave up.

Keep on dreaming and, until next time, whatever you do, be sure to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike