If you needed some work done on your automobile, would you take it to your local librarian? If your child was sick, would you take that child to your local mechanic?
OF COURSE NOT!
Then why do we not see the same absurdness when we share our goals and dreams with those who either have no goals and dreams to start with OR have just given up on them?
We must be very careful who it is that we share this precious information with because it is, indeed, a TREASURE that should be protected at all costs!
Here's what I believe about those who would offer negative "advice" (that word is used VERY loosely here) to those of you who are fighting the battle that comes to those who dare step out for something better in their lives.
1. THEY MAY BE BITTER - Sometimes those who have felt the sting of failure and defeat (they are defeated because they gave up and quit!) are bitter and they do not want ANYONE that they know to even dare try to achieve success. You can literally hear and feel the bitterness in their words, "What makes you think YOU could ever do that?"..."Who do you think YOU are?"..."Don't be stupid! That's just a waste of time!". It's a bit easier to spot these people since their bitterness is so obvious.
2. THEY WANT TO KEEP YOU CLOSE - Others may not be so bitter as described above but, yet, they don't want you to feel success because they know that this would likely mean that you would "move away" from the relationship that you have with them. They do not want there to be any difference in what they experience and what you experience because, after all, "Misery loves company!". Too, if you have some level of success it makes them look bad! It also makes them feel bad because they see that all of their excuses are just that - EXCUSES! So, the easiest way to do that is to try to discourage you from trying such a thing. Just stay put here with me.
3. THEY THINK THEY ARE HELPING YOU - And, there are still others that actually think that they are helping helping you by discouraging you from stepping out and trying to do something to improve your situation and your life. They feel that by helping you see "how it really is" (based on whose knowledge?) they can help keep you from experiencing the pain and the sting of failure and, again, defeat.
Notice that, in all three of these examples, these people will use such words as "always" and "never" as in, "People that try this ALWAYS fail and lose money!" or "This type of thing NEVER works!" Overgeneralization is a key ingredient to the arguments of anyone that would try to keep you from pursuing your dreams.
Make sure that you DO NOT allow yourself to be swayed by those that have given up. Make sure you don't allow yourself to take advice about how to "play the game" from those who have never "been IN the game".
"Birds of a feather flock together" is another good saying. Now then, what group of "birds" do YOU want to be a part of? Find those who are striving and continuously moving toward improvement in their lives even in the face of roadblocks and setbacks and not those who have built a shack on the side of the road at the spot where that very first roadblock appeared.
And, as you do so, be sure to...
"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"
Mike
