Fighting Fear

Do you remember being afraid of "something" in the dark when you were a kid?

 

 I remember times when I couldn't even hardly move in my bed because I was so afraid of what I THOUGHT was "out there. As a matter of fact, I even tried to not breathe as much as possible and had the covers over my head even though I was sweating furiously.

 

I also remember a time when I was out in the woods on our property and found a "creature" crawling up my leg. I didn't know what it was but, it scared me so badly that all I could do was stand still and start screaming. I was "paralyzed"! All it turned out to be was a locust but, hey, I didn't know what it was and I was afraid.

 

I am afraid of heights and that fear also, literally, paralyzes me to the point that I can not move.

 

Can you relate to any of the things that I've shared with you so far?

So, you see, the paralyzing force of fear is not something that we necessarily outgrow as adults. Even in areas besides the physical (like the fear of heights), we can struggle with and have the need to FIGHT FEAR.

It may be the fear of failure, the fear of disappointment, the fear of success, the fear of commitment, or a variety of other fears that we may still face today.

In the next three articles we are going to take a look at the need to FIGHT FEAR and see it for what it really is as well as what "can be" once we get past this fear.

We will take a short journey so that we can "see" what's on the "other side" of fear. And, as it says in the graphic above, "You'll like what's on the other side!".

Until then, why not make a list of the things that hold you  back. You may not want to admit it but, many times, we are held back because FEAR has paralyzed us in our tracks. Go ahead, brainstorm and make a list. Be honest with yourself as you make this list so that you can make some progress as we go through this series.

Be sure to share this with as many people as possible so that they, too, can begin to face fear and enjoy the benefits of getting to the "other side" of fear.

Until then, always be sure to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike

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FINANCES: It's Up to Me

Your ability to work well with others as well as encourage and uplift them will have a direct impact on your financial future.

 

Read that again and let it sink in.

 

Yes, I know that there are some rare instances where someone does something, someway, somehow to where they have no real connection with anyone else at all. Again, notice the word, "rare".

 

For the most of us, we must deal with people on a daily basis and it's not always an easy thing to do, is it? But it's something that the wise figure out and use to their advantage and those that don't, will likely come up a little short.

 

If you haven't done so, be sure to go back and read the previous three blog articles that led up to this one. They all "stacked" upon each other and built on each other, leading us to this final thought of this series.

 

The bottom line (and main thought) is this: In ALL of these areas it is important to realize, "If it's to be, it's up to me."

 

Hey listen, if you want to be like everyone else and plod along through life - miserable - like most others seem to be then, friend, just cruise along and make no real effort to improve yourself and you will achieve exactly that.

 

But YOU - yes, YOU - desire more than that for your life! Just the fact that you are reading this blog sets you apart from the majority of others. That's true! Most people that you know will not take the time to read an article like this, much less on a regular basis.

 

Because you desire more for your life and because you understand that, this, by itself, will set you apart from the majority of those around you, YOU will make the effort to actually take the time to pay attention to, and to care about and for those that you spend time with each day.

 

This begins at home with your family and spills over with your close friends and into the workplace among your coworkers. And, yes, this even applies to those that you come into contact with while out and about at the grocery store or a local restaurant.

 

How you treat people MATTERS and YOU are one that knows this, understands this and does what is necessary to IMPROVE this in your daily activities.

 

And, YES, this DOES have a direct impact upon your paycheck and your opportunities. I strongly say to you that THIS IS A FACT!

 

Do you want to become indispensable in your workplace? Then do these things that I have shared with you in the past few articles and your job will be SAFE. Not only will it be safe but you will likely find more and more opportunity offered to you in that company because of these important qualities.

 

I'd love to get your thoughts and feedback on this series or on anything that I share with you. Have you seen this to be true in your own life or have you noticed this in others? Let me know, I'd love to hear about it and look forward to your input.

Until next time, friend, whatever you do, always be sure to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike

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JOBS/CAREER: It's Up to Me

Your "people skills" DO matter when it comes to getting a job and working with others. Oh, I know that there are some jobs where you might be 100% secluded from any interaction with anyone else but, let's face it, those jobs are rare. And, the simple fact that you are reading this blog tells me that you would not want that type of job anyway.

 

That just wouldn't be you.

 

So, again, when considering opportunities for jobs and careers for your life, you should take hope and feel some excitement understanding that this process is not "left up in the air" out of your control. Nope, using the phrase for this series, when it comes to this area of your life, it applies: "If it's to be, it's up to me!"

 

I mentioned in the previous two articles in this series that these will all build off of each other. That means that this particular segment on jobs and careers is feeding off of the last feature - RELATIONSHIPS.

 

If you find that you have been through several jobs in a short (or shorter than might be "normal") period of time, please stop and ask yourself this question: "What was the problem?" Answer that as honestly as you can and maybe even write that down. Be specific for each of the past four or five jobs that you have had.

 

Now then, after you have done that, look at all of those jobs and then write down the ONE, COMMON DENOMINATOR for all of those jobs. More than likely, you will discover that one, common denominator to be YOU.

 

Yes, you.

 

I'm not saying that you are the problem 100% of the time, o.k.? However, I AM saying that you (me and everyone reading this) are the biggest part of the problem more than you may want to admit.

 

I mean, really, who wants to admit THAT?

 

How well we work with others plays a BIG part on our job opportunities as well as our career opportunities.

 

It's also up to you when it comes to doing what it is that needs to be done in order to "qualify" for that job or career. If it requires a degree, then it is up to YOU to make that happen. It if it requires a certain skill level that can only come by experience, then it is up to YOU to do whatever you have to do to gain that experience.

 

No one else can do that for you, right?

 

Too many want a job or career that will bring them LOTS AND LOTS OF MONEY without any specialized degree or experience.

 

Sorry friend, that's a fairy tale like we discussed in our last series on opportunities.

 

IT'S UP TO ME! Stop waiting, stop making excuses, stop wishing.

 

If it's going to be - YOU are the one that has to do what it takes.

 

And you DO have the ability to do whatever it takes.

 

You have the ability but, do you have the DESIRE and DETERMINATION to make it a reality?

 

I can't answer that one for you.

 

But, going back to my emphasis on RELATIONSHIPS, friend, you don't have to do this all alone. That doesn't mean that someone else will do it for you, but others may be able to help direct you in the right direction or get you started on the right path.

 

We all can use a little help from our friends. Always.

 

Next, we will conclude this short series by talking about how all of this ties into our financial future.

 

Read, apply, and share.

 

And, until the next time, continue to...

 

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

 

Mike

 

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RELATIONSHIPS: It's Up to Me

In discussing the fact that our future is dependent upon us ("If it's to be, it's up to me"), I also pointed out that this future - OUR future - is greatly dependent upon our RELATIONSHIPS.

 

As a matter of fact, this whole series will "spin off" off of what we do with our RELATIONSHIPS.

 

That being said, I obviously believe that relationships matter. I believe that they matter to the point that, pretty much everything that we encounter and undertake, is connected to our relationships.

 

How we treat people says a lot about "who" we are, wouldn't you agree? The ability to treat others with honor and respect - regardless of their social standing or what they may be able to do for us - is an ability that every employer is looking for in those that they want working for their company.

 

If you are married and, especially if you have children, these relationships SHOULD matter to the point of greatly influencing what you do, why you do it and how you approach it. Too, having "solid" relationships in this area will do wonders for your "well-being" and mindset as you go to the workplace to do your job.

 

Your relationships with your coworkers will greatly determine your upward movement in the company for which you work. Those in charge will take notice of those that have the ability to work as a team and with a team, AS a team member. They will also notice that you understand the importance of the team and that you are not as focused on your own personal achievement.

 

Even your relationships with those that you come across away from you job matters in this way. How? It is a reflection of how you treat others...plain and simple.

 

Friend, you can't fake this stuff! You may need to work on yourself to make this a natural part of "who" you are, but it can be done.

 

Appreciate others. Encourage others. Build others up and see what happens.

 

And, as you do so, always be sure to...

 

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

 

Mike

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If It's to Be...

So, how would YOU finish that sentence? What would YOU say determines what happens in your life?

 

Is it luck? Fate? Karma?

 

Some of you may have been tempted to complete this sentence with the often quoted phrase, "If it is to be, it is up to me." This quote has been attributed to a lot of different people but the most consistent "author" I found was someone by the name of William Johnson.

 

Some would disagree with that statement and others just aren't sure but, for me, I agree.

 

Yes, someone can get lucky and win the lottery, for example. However, even if that were to happen, it would still be up to that person as to how they would handle that immediate influx of money. We've seen the scenario repeated many times where someone wins the lottery and ends up in worse financial standing than where they were BEFORE winning the lottery.

So, up front, we're not talking about accidents or "freak" happenings (good or bad) that aren't part of "normal" activity of a person's life. I really don't want to have to keep repeating that "disclaimer" and I want to try to help you avoid the "excuse" by using such things. Fair enough?

After this initial "introductory" article on this topic, I'm going to target how this applies to relationships, jobs and finances.

So many times we want to "throw our hands up in the air" and say, "Poor me! Things are outta' control in my life!"

Your future is made up of what we do and how we do it TODAY.

So, applying the thought of this little series of articles, when we look at ANY area of our life and our FUTURE, "if it's to be, it's up to ME"!

This should not discourage you nor worry you. This should not cause any anxiety nor should it overwhelm you. THIS SHOULD EXCITE YOU because now you stop the wringing of your hands thinking that you have no control.

YOU DO!

Get excited and brainstorm on what this means for you and your life! You DO have the ability to determine the direction of your future. Yes, YOU and YES, YOU DO!

Think about it and come back for the next segment on "RELATIONSHIPS: It's Up To Me".

Until then, whatever you do, be sure to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike

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