Thursday, July 24, 2014

3rd of 4 Agreements (Don't Make Assumptions)

You know what they say about what happens when you ASSUME something, right? Well, I'll go ahead and tell you in case you don't. It is said that when you choose to ASSUME something that you end up making an ASS out of U and ME.
That's not good. I know of no one that wakes up in the morning and says, "Hey! I think I want to make an "ass" out of myself!"
So, friend, don't make assumptions.
Good communication is a skill that many - if not most - lack and I don't think it's getting any better. With the advent of texting and "walking computers" there seems to be less and less human, face-to-face interaction and this leads to a weakening of communication skills.
One way to help combat this problem is to STOP MAKING ASSUMPTIONS!
Stop acting and/or reacting to what you THINK someone said and take the time to communicate clearly and remove as many misunderstandings as you can.
A. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. So, how does it generally work out for you when you EXPECT others to know what you are thinking? We put undue pressure on relationships when we EXPECT others to know. It doesn't matter if it's a spouse or a friend...why do that to them?
B. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. Who DOESN'T want to rid their life of as much drama as possible? Assumptions bring on misunderstandings which, in turn, often bring emotions that have to be dealt with. Whether it's sadness, disappointment or any other kind of drama, it CAN be prevented most of the time with better, and clearer, communication.
C. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life. Pretty bold statement, right? But, if you really think about what we're saying here, it actually is a real transformation that can take place in your life. Following these steps can TRANSFORM your life from one that is filled with drama that stems from miscommunication and into one of clarity and peace.
Communication can be very frustrating but, friend, it doesn't have to be. Care enough to take the time to LISTEN and not make assumptions on what someone else is saying or MIGHT say. Care enough to take the time to SPEAK CLEARLY and not assume that others know what you mean.
Ahhhhhhhhhh. Hear that? It's the sounds of a more peaceful life. Nice, isn't it?
Enjoy! And, as you do so, be sure to...
"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

                                        TRAVEL FOR LESS and ENJOY LIFE MORE!

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