In yesterday's blog entry and podcast we noticed two key things concerning the problem many have with loving themselves. The feeling of inferiority that so many feel for many different reasons.
1. IT IS POSSIBLE TO BREAK THROUGH THIS WALL OF INFERIORITY
2. DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF OR OTHERS TO USE THIS AS AN EXCUSE
Please understand that NONE of this is easy if you are one that has struggled with these feelings of inferiority for most of your life - BUT IT CAN BE DONE!
Today we focus on the NEED for loving one's self and the impact it has on our lives as well as the lives of those around us.
We have all heard the phrase, "You can't love others until you first love yourself." Although I understand the underlying idea in this statement I would guess that many of you would agree with me when I say that this is not always true!
Many times someone that has a struggle with feeling inferior comes across as a "superior" friend! They, many times, are the type of person that will do ANYTHING for ANYONE at ANYTIME. They are wonderful and lavish great attention on their friends while, at the same time, feeling very inferior about themselves.
However, many times - if not all - these relationships will soon begin to self-destruct. How? Why?
The person struggling with the inferiority complex will soon begin to questions these friendships and begin to feel that they do not deserve such friends. "Why should I expect this kind of friendship/relationship to continue? Nothing good ever happens to me so I should not expect this to last!"
That being so they many times "read" things into comments and actions that really aren't there. But, their thoughts have driven them to believe this to be true and they begin to self-destruct. I've seen this happen many, many times.
Then, once this begins to happen they tell themselves, "See? I told you! Why should you expect something good in your life?"
So, yes, when you really look at it with this in mind, it actually DOES become impossible to love others until you learn to love yourself. So, how do you do that?
First - regardless of your belief system (religious or not) - understand and believe that you are here for a reason!
I don't know that I have spoken to anyone that didn't believe that we are all here for a reason and, that reason usually being for the betterment of those with whom we come into contact. Don't you feel that way? Dig deep and I will believe that you will find that you do, indeed, believe this to be true!
You just may feel LOST as to what your purpose is! But let's start with the basic premise first, o.k.?
YOU HAVE PURPOSE! And, that being true (and it is!), means that you have WORTH and you have VALUE regardless of what you have been told by others in your past!
You are a SPECIAL person and there is no one else in the world like you - THIS IS TRUE! Oh, sure, there may be someone that is similar to you in different ways. There may be someone that looks like you - but not EXACTLY like you! There may be someone that has some of your same mannerisms - but not EXACTLY like yours! We could go on and on with this point, but do YOU get the point? THERE IS NO ONE ELSE LIKE YOU! No one!
Again, go back to our study of Napoleon Hill's book, "Think and Grow Rich" and study the chapter on the subconscious mind and realize how you can CHANGE what you believe about yourself. You can begin to BELIEVE and KNOW that you ARE of value and worth and then begin to live and act accordingly.
Secondly, understand the TIME PRINCIPLE!
The "time principle" is simply this: it takes effort and it takes time. You have to WANT to change what you believe about yourself. Do you?
You are making a step in the right direction just by reading this blog article and, hopefully, listening to the podcast! But the ACTION step is a step that only you can take! I can't take it for you nor can anyone else!
If you find it hard to say, "I love you!" in the mirror to yourself each morning, perhaps begin by looking at yourself with a smile on your face and simply say, "Hey, you're alright!" and repeat that at least once a day. It's better if you can do that SEVERAL times a day.
Don't question it. Don't "but" it ("Hey, you're alright!"..but....). Don't dispute it! Say it, feel it and begin to live it!
Again, this will take time - but, hey, anything worth doing takes time, my friend!
YOU CAN DO THIS! Know that you can, believe that you can and soon, LIVE this belief!
Pay attention and see what you begin to attract to your life along the way - you'll be amazed!
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And, as always...
"Make it an AWESOME day! (who else is going to do it for you?)"