Lies destroy. Lies hurt. Lies kill.
Yeah, I am getting straight to the point and I'm hitting this one hard.
Believe the Bible or not, that is up to you, but here are a couple of things it has to say about lying: "the devil...is a liar and the father of it." (John 8:44) and, again, in reference to the devil, in John 10:10 it says, "...does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy...".
Again, believe it or not, but the main point I want to make with that is that LYING IS EVIL and is bent on DESTRUCTION.
It doesn't matter what level of relationship you want to consider, LIES KILL RELATIONSHIPS!
I really want you to encourage you to seriously consider this. No, I'm not going to get into this senseless discussion of "little white lies" and all of that other silliness that so many want to waste time with - LET'S GET REAL.
We ALL hate it when we feel that we have been taken advantage of by some salesperson due to them telling us a lie or lies in order to get us to buy some product. We will complain to anyone that will listen to how angry we are at this injustice.
And you should be.
But, think about this - that person doesn't even know you. No matter how much they want to try to convince you that they have your best interest at heart, they don't know you and they don't have much of a relationship to you or with you. YES, it is still wrong for them to lie to you and to be deceitful. BUT HELP ME OUT ON THIS - why then, do we treat those that we DO have close relationships with such abandon and lack of care by lying or accepting lies?
Lying shows a lack of HONOR and RESPECT for a person. There is NO honor or respect when there is the existence of lies.
We talked about the idea of being devalued by others. This is a prime example. PAY ATTENTION.
When you lie to another individual (and I don't really care if it's a customer or your best friend or your spouse) you DEVALUE that person and you also DISRESPECT that person!
When you allow others to lie to you and, even once you discover this habit, you allow that practice to continue, YOU are ALLOWING and ACCEPTING that persons DEVALUATION and DISRESPECT of you.
"For every good reason there is to lie, there is a better reason to tell the truth." - Bo Bennett
And, we've likely all heard this quote from Sir Walter Scott: "Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive."
Relationships - at ANY level - matter.
Treat them that way and see what happens in your life and in the lives of those around you.
And, as you do so, be sure to...
"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you) "