Tuesday, July 14, 2009

The FEAR of CRITICISM!

Wow, think about this one!

This one impacts each and every one of us - even those of you that THINK that it doesn't!

All of us, at one time or another, have either NOT DONE something or HAVE DONE something due to the fear of criticism! I want to challenge you to think about this in your own life - try to find this in your own life so that we - together - can eliminate it from your life.

Again, some of you will say, "Oh, I'm not worried about what others think! I'm never effected by the fear of criticism!" I beg to differ. If I were able to spend enough time with you, I would be able to point out to you areas in your life where you allow this fear of criticism to reign supreme.

Some don't have to think about it at all. Some can tell you right away areas in their life that they struggle with this fear of criticism every single day!

WE WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK AND/OR WHAT THEY WILL SAY TO THE POINT THAT WE ALLOW THEM TO PARALYZE OUR LIVES!
Again, allowing others to control us when 1) they have no right or claim to do so and 2)we are the ones in control of our lives - no one else.
Oh, I know, point 1 in the above paragraph may cause much discussion because there are those that CLAIM to have a "claim" or "right" to control you. Your boss for example. But do they really have "claim" on your life or have the "right" to criticize you?
NO!
But too many of us ALLOW that to take place in our lives thus GIVING them access to the claim on our lives.
I also know that there are likely many women and children (and perhaps some men, as well) that have husbands and/or fathers (as well as some wives) that will tell them that they DO indeed have "claim" on their lives and the "right" to belittle and criticize them however they desire. THIS IS THE HARDEST CHAIN OF FEAR TO BREAK - this fear of a spouse or a parent and trying to avoid (at all cost) any criticism that may come from them.
But, have you noticed that, no matter what you do or don't do in this situation, the criticism will still come?
WHY? Because that person "in control" is WEAK! That is a fact!
They are WEAK and they feel "power" by trying to control you through fear - the fear of criticism.
O.k. we've identified the fact that all of us struggle with this (some more than others) - but we ALL do! (Hey, why do you wear the clothes you wear, drive the car that you drive and even eat at the restaurants that you chose?)
In Wednesday's podcast we will identify some of the CHARACTERISTICS of this FEAR of CRITICISM.
I welcome any and all feedback - I prefer you send it to my email at mike@futureyouuniversity.com
Thanks for taking the time to read this and, as always...
"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"
Mike

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