So, as a recap, over the past couple of days we've talked about the fact that there is no shame in having to start over. No matter how many times you've had to start over, it doesn't matter. The key thing is the fact that you did NOT give up!
Yesterday I stated that the only problem that we need to take a look at is WHY we are starting over so many times. Like I said, there are situations that are beyond our control that cause us to have to start over, HOWEVER, I also stated that I could tell you the #1 REASON why we often have to start over so often.
If you haven't looked at that yet, take the time to do so. It might help you from getting offended at what I'm about to share with you, ABOUT you.
The #1 REASON that we have to "start over" so many times is because we refuse to swallow our pride and admit that, usually, it is due to our own mistakes. Now listen, that doesn't mean that we are bad people or inadequate people. It simply means that we are human and that we make mistakes.
HOWEVER, the problem comes when we fail to admit to that fact and we keep making the same mistake over and over and over again. Go back and read my comparison to some inventor not learning from their past mistakes. As silly as that example sounds (yeah, I really do mean you need to go back and read that if you haven't already) it is just as silly - and yes, foolish - for us to keep making the same mistakes as well.
And, finally (as far as the recap), I also told you that you may be surprised at how accurately I am able to pin-point some of these mistakes that we do not want to confess to, due to our pride.
So, in no particular order, here are some of those mistakes that we must correct if we ever plan to actually make progress in our journey toward our goals and dreams:
1. WE DON'T LISTEN! Another way to say that is that we fail to follow instructions. No matter what it is that you are trying to accomplish, someone else has "been there, done that" and often has information available for you to follow, based on their experience. I'm not sure what it is about most of us that causes us to stick our chests out in pride and say, "I don't need any help! I can do this myself and likely, better than anyone else!"
Hit home yet? You may have a particular person that got you into a particular home-based business and they offer you guidance and direction that you refuse to follow. WHY? Chances are that this person even asked you - up front, in the beginning - if you were one that could, and would, follow instructions and that was also open to such direction. And, you happily and quickly said, "YES!"
Really? As much as it hurts, take a good long look and see where you have decided to "blaze your own trail" instead of seeking out available guidance and direction.
2. WE TALK MORE THAN DO! You like to talk about how dedicated you are to this effort and, if you have a "mentor" or "coach", you probably like telling them that as well. Yet, if you are willing to get really honest with yourself, you actually TALK more than you actually DO. Maybe you're not as excited about this as you thought that you were and, honestly, you really need to see if that is true. Why? Because if this is something that you are NOT really interested in, then you need to identify that problem quickly instead of acting like you ARE interested. If you're NOT interested enough to really do what it takes to have some success then you will NOT do what is necessary for said success. Make sense?
But, maybe you just aren't as motivated a person as you want to think that you are! Ouch! Yeah, that one hurts, but it may be true. How much time do you actually spend with this effort. I didn't ask how much time do you THINK you spend...I asked how much time do you ACTUALLY spend.
What's the difference? You tell me. You WILL be able to tell me if you track your time or keep record of your time. You may be surprised to find out that you spend a lot less time with this than you think that you do.
3. WE LIKE TO PLAY "DRESS UP". This is very closely related to #2. You like to "talk" a lot about what you are doing (or THINK that you are doing) but, you actually don't really DO that much in reality. It's "fun" when people ask you what you do and you say, "I'm an entrepreneur!" when, in reality, you are a "wannabe". Ouch, again!
You have the business cards, you have a space set up for your office, you have a "schedule" set, in which you tell those around you to NOT bother you during certain times while you are in "your office" and, yet, in reality, you actually do very little if anything at all. You spend most of your time moving things around on your desk, reading e-mails, and PLANNING what you are going to do.
It's fun to play "dress up" but "playing" is not the same as "achieving".
Oh, I'm sure there are some more that we could talk about here. Why not share YOUR thoughts and "confessions" with me below OR, better yet, on the Future You University "fan page" on Facebook? I'd really love to see and read your feedback there.
So, starting over is not a sign that you are defeated. However, making the same mistakes over and over again and not learning from those mistakes and not doing things differently IS a sign that you are a bit hard-headed and stubborn. And, if that's the way you want to be, it's up to you. But friend, let's get honest here and come to an agreement that, if this is your mindset, you will spend the rest of your life "starting over" or even finally, actually QUITTING.
You say, "NEVER!". Then change what you are doing by learning from what you have done and see what happens. Remember, "Change Nothing - Nothing Changes!".
And, as you do so, always be sure to...
"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"
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