Wednesday, July 8, 2026

Want It MORE!

 

(This article first appeared on December 1, 2009. It has been edited and updated)

Obviously, when we use the word, "it" in today's title we are referring to your goals and dreams. Another way to approach this topic is to use the question that I've poised before, "What Are YOUR Dreams Worth?"

Are you afraid to move forward? Does the uncertainty of "being your own boss" or "doing your own thing" paralyze you with FEAR and keep you from making progress toward your goals and dreams?

Here's what you have to ask yourself: Which do you want more? The future that you have visualized and that you desire OR to stay where you are and remain there for the rest of your life - IF you're lucky enough to keep your job?

How bad do you want success? Yes, again, let me emphasize that "success" can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people - but we're talking about YOU and YOUR definition/idea of success in your own life! Don't worry about other people's definition and desire for success --- we're talking about YOU! How bad do you want it? What's it worth to you?

Do you want it bad enough to...

--> Keep going even when you get discouraged?

--> Keep going even when you are afraid of the unknown?

--> Keep going even when you come up against a road block?

-->Keep going even when there is no one there to cheer you on?

--> Keep going when some around you even try to discourage you from moving on with your goals and dreams?

Bottom line, do you want it bad enough to KEEP GOING?

Many people are afraid to take the risk of dreaming. However, you must decide if the risk is worth the reward? We all should be more afraid of NOT moving foward and of NOT improving our lives.

The EASY thing to do is to do NOTHING!

Yet, I want to suggest to you that there is no such thing as "doing nothing".

When you think you are doing NOTHING, you are doing SOMETHING! Notice this...

By DOING NOTHING, you are...

--> Surrendering to fear

--> Giving up on your dreams

--> Taking a step BACKWARDS (you will move one way or the other!)

--> Taking the lazy man's way out

--> Allowing others to control your destiny (and that is NOT your destiny!)

So, you see - there is no such thing as "doing nothing" - we are either moving FORWARD and making PROGRESS or we are sliding BACKWARDS and losing ground every single day.

Which do YOU want more?

No one can answer that and no one can decide that but you! It is YOUR choice - and it IS a choice!

I want to challenge you - encourage you - to want SUCCESS and MOVING FORWARD more than you want to maintain the status quo.

You can do it and I am here to help! Keep moving, keep growing, keep dreaming, keep improving your life and....all along the way, never forget to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike

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Monday, July 6, 2026

WRITE IT DOWN!

 

Is it IMPORTANT to write things down?

It really depends on how important it is/for YOU, right?  But, specifically, in the area of "personal development" or "positive mindset" and with the idea of DOING what needs to be done in order to make POSITIVE IMPROVEMENTS in and for your life...YES, it IS important to write some things down!

You'll pick these up that I'll be talking about in this article better by going and listening and/or watching this episode by going to my podcast or YouTube videos (all links are listed below) because, in them, I actually suggest on some things to...guess what? WRITE THEM DOWN! 

So, first and foremost, here's what I'm going to suggest that you get out a piece of paper or a notebook  and write down: 

 1. DO YOU WANT TO MAKE YOUR LIFE BETTER or are you SATISFIED WHERE YOU ARE? Write down the question and write down your HONEST answer to that question. Do you truly DESIRE to make that improvement or do you just like to TALK about it? (Go back and re-read some of the previous articles that talk about these things and the importance of what happens when you actually "DECIDE".)

2. WHAT DO YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO LOOK LIKE 1 YEAR FROM TODAY?  Get very specific on this. One "easy" way to do it is to write down what it is about your life that you DON'T like right now and then across from that, write down how you'd like that to be different.                                 For example: Starting on the left margin write: I'm tired of having nothing left at the end of the month after paying my bills" ----(then, to the right of this write something like) I want to be able to pay ALL my bills each month and have $1,000 left over (whatever amount YOU desire).

3. CAN I GET THERE IN 1 YEAR CONTINUING TO DO WHAT I'M DOING RIGHT NOW? If your answer is "yes' then you need to write down, specifically, why you're in the situation that you're in right now if you could keep doing that same thing and have that kind of improvement in 1 year.  If your is that, "no", you CAN'T keep doing the same thing and expect change then you MUST write down the next one...

4. ARE THERE THINGS I CAN DO ON MY OWN TO BEGIN MAKING THE CHANGE NECESSARY? The answer is likely, "Yes" on that part and then you need to right down those things that YOU CAN DO and begin doing them right away!                                                                                     Now then, write the things down that you know you CAN'T do and that you will admit that you need help with. 

Now, I'm going to stop on my end making suggestions on what you need to write down because, honestly, these first 4 questions are the foundation of you actually moving forward or staying put where you are. 

You see, if we think we can keep doing the same thing we're doing now and get different results then, friend, you've just described what many call the definition of "insanity".

Go back and listen to the podcast or watch the videos on some of the previous discussions to hear MORE that will HELP YOU - if you're willing to listen and DO - begin the process of moving forward. 

Friend, I'm here to help YOU and I like doing that by providing step-by-step things that you can follow and do BUT, you must be willing to DO them yourself and FOR yourself and those important to you. 

Will you? That decision lies squarely on your shoulders but...remember this, you don't have to approach this on your own. That's why I do what I do...to help YOU in the process.

Will you join me? Let me hear from you because I have more things coming in the very near future that will do exactly - step by step - what we're talking about here but you must start NOW getting your mindset ready and prepared to start taking those necessary steps.  

As always, THANKS for joining me today and, please, share this with as many as possible and always be sure to keep moving forward, closer to your dream!

And, until next time, whatever you do,  be sure to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike
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Friday, July 3, 2026

Follow Those Who Do!

(This article first appeared in June of 2016. It has been edited and updated)

Those are some pretty powerful statements/challenges shown in the above graphic, right? We'll get to it in a few moments but, first, let me continue on with today's story that is continued from the story in the LAST blog. Got all of that?

If you haven't done so yet, be sure to go back and read the last blog article because today's article is DIRECTLY tied in to what took place with the situation that I discussed there. 

Picking up where I left off in the last article, Asher (my 3 year old grandson) had enjoyed an afternoon of being in a friend's pool last weekend when he and his sister, Em (4.5 years old) came for a visit to our house. He had done the same thing that his sister had done for much of the afternoon - he stayed really close to my wife, hanging on and not wanting to take a chance being away from the "safety" of hanging on. This was despite the fact that he was wearing a life jacket. 

I was busy with Em, helping her finally trust me to the point that she stopped clinging to me and started enjoying being able to splash around the pool and even move around a bit with her life jacket on and a "swim noodle" wrapped around her. And, she finally got rid of the swim noodle and enjoyed getting around with just her life jacket on. 

Asher had watched all of this and, once he saw his sister taking that step and seeing her enjoy the "freedom" that came with taking action based on her trust, he decided to do the same thing. 

He watched someone who was DOING (his sister) and decided that he, too, could do the same thing!

Hey, don't miss this important point: SOMEONE IS WATCHING YOU! That's a bit of a "side track note" from the main thing we'll be discussing today, but it is IMPORTANT for us to realize this fact in ANY area and EVERY area of our lives. 

Now I'll get back to the main focus of this article - in any area of your life in which you seek improvement, FOLLOW THOSE THAT ARE SUCCESSFUL. And, by the way, the only ones that are successful are those that "do" as opposed to those that "talk". 

I've discussed before about the decision that you will have to make in this process when you do this, which is: Are you willing to DO what they have DONE for the success that you seek?

In my example, Asher watched his sister Em SUCCESSFULLY let go of her fears, trust her "Poppa" and actively enjoy her time in the pool even more than she had been doing. She acted, he watched and then he, too, took action.

That's how it works, friend!

It's also important to be careful of who it is that you watch, observe, "copy" and follow! Again, only copy and follow those that DO and that DO so SUCCESSFULLY. 

Whether it is concerning parenting, your marriage or other relationships, your job and/or career as well as your goals and dreams - seek out those that have done it successfully and perhaps are STILL doing so. If possible, take advantage of the opportunity to visit those that are still around and "pick their brain" as to the "secret of their success". 

In the past (will probably revisit this again soon), I talked about learning from "Other People's Mistakes" and I called it "O.P.M Wisdom". In the same - but opposite - way, we can also learn from "Other People's Successes", which we would call "O.P.S Wisdom". 

So, who are YOU watching? Are you paying attention and even taking notice of those that are successful in whatever area it is that you seek success as well? 

Watch. Observe. And then copy those that DO. 
 
As always, THANKS for joining me today and, please, share this with as many as possible and always be sure to keep moving forward, closer to your dream!

And, until next time, whatever you do,  be sure to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike

 

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Monday, June 29, 2026

Are YOU Paralyzed By FEAR?

 

(This article first appeared in June of 2016. It has been edited and updated)

  

Back when this article was originally written,  my wife and I were blessed to have our two grandbabies come for a visit and spend the night. We always loved it when they got to come for a visit like that and we usually got to enjoy those visits about once a month.
 
One of the things that made this visit even more special was that we got to take them swimming in a friend's pool. They came all prepared with their little life jackets and enjoyed getting into the water with "Poppa and MiMi" but, I noticed right away, they both were clinging to us and weren't about to let go! I had little Em, who was about 4.5 years old and, as much as I tried, I could not get her to let go a little bit and float around by just holding my hand. 

I would try to tell her that she had her life jacket on and that nothing would happen to her. She would say, "But Poppa, it's DEEP!" I would tell her, "Baby, it doesn't matter how deep it is, you have your life jacket on and you're safe!". 

I would try to pull her away from me to hold on to her hands and let her float out in front of me. She wasn't having ANY of that! She would grab hold of me and wrap her legs as much around my leg as she could and just stiffen up - paralyzed by fear. 

Now, don't get the wrong idea, I wasn't forcing her to take action when she was so clearly afraid. However, I did keep talking to her about how Poppa wasn't going to let anything happen to her and that I would keep her safe. 

Do you know what a "swim noodle" is? Maybe this picture will help...
Now do you know what I'm talking about? These are amazingly simple products that you can bend and shape and use in all kinds of ways to float in the water.  I grabbed one of these off of the side of the pool and wrapped it around her (while I was holding on to her) and had her actually let go of me and hang on to the "noodle". I was able to do so while still making her feel completely safe and, before long, she began to loosen up a little bit and, not too long after that, she was floating around, kicking, moving and having the time of her life!

She excitedly said to me, "Poppa! I TRUSTED you and now look at what I'm doing!" And, before we were done with our swimming time, she even got rid of the noodle and was floating around with just her life jacket - something that she wasn't ABOUT to do at the beginning. 

Have you already been "seeing" the important message in all of this? 

Fear can absolutely paralyze us to the point that we are afraid to do ANYTHING and, that being true, we also fail to make any progress or enjoy life.  The "What If's" can take over to the point that we are afraid to do ANYTHING for fear of doing something wrong. 

We don't trust our instincts or the work that we have put into this effort in preparation. We don't trust the wise words of our mentors or those that have helped us prepare. The only "voice" that we can hear is the VOICE OF FEAR. 

Yet, if we can allow ourselves to begin to hear and listen to our instincts, our preparation, our mentors and other helpers we may actually began to take actions that will lead to a life unimagined!

The opposite of FEAR is FAITH! And, out of necessity, they cannot exist together at the same time or place. 

Simple, yet powerful, wouldn't you agree? 

What might we enjoy and experience once we get past the paralyzing force of fear? Is it worth it to you to find out? If so, you will find ways to begin to take those "baby steps" that will allow you to slowly begin to realize that you can, indeed, take action. 

"Baby steps" or "jumping in head first"...different people may decide to take action in different ways but, the key thing is this: TAKE ACTION! 

Oh, and one more thing that happened in the pool the other day. Em's little brother, Asher (who was 3 years old) had been doing pretty much the same thing by hanging on to my wife. But, he was watching what was taking place with Em and, after a while, on his own, he let go and was floating around with a noodle - just like his big sister.

That's another "lesson" that we'll discuss in the next article. Start thinking about that in advance and see what thoughts come to mind for your own life. 

As always, THANKS for joining me today and, please, share this with as many as possible and always be sure to keep moving forward, closer to your dream!

And, until next time, whatever you do,  be sure to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike
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Saturday, June 27, 2026

What Happens When You DECIDE?

 

(This is NOT from an older article but it continues our discussion on DECISIONS)

 

First and foremost, we must understand what the word, DECIDE, actually means. 

At it's core, the word "DECIDE" means to "make a final choice or judgment". Interestingly, the word study of this word indicates that it comes from the Latin word, "decidere", which literally means, "to cut off". Every time you make a decision, you are literally cutting away other possibilities and committing to a single path.

That should clear up the misconception about what so many people do at the start of each new year. We call them "New Year's Resolutions" which, in fact, rarely is there any "resolution" that has actually taken place. Do a word study on the word, "resolve" and you will find that it means to "make a firm commitment".  

I'm not sure who it was that actually did what was described in this story but, I've often heard it attributed to George Washington but I've also heard it connected to others. Either way, it's a powerful story that I believe helps us understand this concept. George Washington and some of his group were paddling in boats to a shore where their enemy was located. The story says that, upon arrival on the shore, he told his men to push the boats away from the shore so that they would understand that there was NO RETREAT and that this was a FULL COMMITMENT with no turning back.  

In the podcast for this episode I share a story from my first job in youth ministry back in 1982. An eight grade girl was in my office by requests of her parents because she was dating a much older boy and they wanted me to try to talk to her about that situation. During her visit she mentioned that they were thinking about getting married and then said, "Oh well, if it doesn't work, we can just get a divorce!"             

WOW! That is/was NOT a true "decision" (used in the right way) or a "commitment", which marriage is supposed to be. 

Friend, this "whatever happens, happen" approach will NEVER get you moving forward in and for your life! It will keep you where you are and, likely, will actually drop you even further back. That kind of thinking is POISON to and for your future! 

So, friend...what is it that you want for your future? Now listen, many times if we allow ourselves to think that way the first "defense mechanism" thought that comes up is, "Oh I can't do that. It's impossible!" There is a blog article coming soon (the podcast and videos for it are already published - see links below) titled, "When I say 'I CAN'T', I MUST!' " which helps us understand what we MUST do when faced with those negative "defense mechanism" statements.  

Try starting the process of thinking that way even now as we continue on with this process. Start "dreaming" again of what it is you want for your life. Anytime you come up with the thought, "I can't" hen get out a piece of paper or put it on your phone, tablet or computer and ask, "How CAN I make that happen?" and then brainstorm about what changes you must make in order to clear a path. Don't just say, "Yeah, Mike, that's a good idea!". START TAKING ACTION WITH IT EVEN TODAY. 

And, until next time, whatever you do,  be sure to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike
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