STOP Complaining - START Solving!

This is an original post (new for this date in July of 2026) that is based off of a graphic that I put together several years ago. Many times I will put thoughts that go through my mind down in a file of other quotes that I have and/or make a graphic of the quote and save it on my computer. This is one of those times. 

I don't remember exactly what was going on at the time or what spurred me to come up with this thought but, even if I don't remember the specifics, it  speaks "loud and clear" to me even today. 

                     

"I must CHANGE my thinking! When I see a problem, I MUST stop complaining. Instead, I must develop a solution and put it into ACTION!"                      

I think that you would agree with me when I say that it is EASY to find SOMETHING about which to complain...right? For some, it's like a favorite pastime and, if you spend enough time around them it may seem as if that is about all that they do!

And, if (more like "SINCE") complaining is such an easy thing to do then, on the other side of the equation, to be someone that DOESN'T complain about everything so quickly would make you someone that is "different" in a positive way...right?  

For most of us, we need to pay close attention to what everyone else is doing and DO THE OPPOSITE! Especially when it's something as negative as complaining all of the time. What, of necessity, does that mean? It means that we will have a positive impact on our OWN mindset by focusing on POSITIVE thoughts and ideas instead of the negative AND we will also have a positive impact on those around us.

And, in case you don't know it, people want MORE of the person that is POSITIVE and LESS of the NEGATIVE person. It is a need and a necessity...especially if you are trying to improve your own mindset as well as have a positive impact on those around you.  

Oh, and something else to keep in mind: There have been many times in the past (and even happening right now, today) where people have taken those "things" that brings about the tendency to complain and have made millions of dollars by finding a solution. They found that THEY weren't the ONLY ones that were complaining about ____________ (fill in the blank), which represented a PROBLEM and they came up with the SOLUTION. 

That quote that I came up with that is shown up there? Just even on a day to day basis - for me - that thought helps me simply change the way I think about things that are easy to complain about. Instead, I begin to think about what I can do to change or remove that situation. And, sometimes...it is as simply as not putting myself in the position to where I'm around whatever it is that causes me to complain in the first place!

What about YOU?  

Make a list (remember...WRITE IT DOWN) of the things that you find you complain about a lot) and then brainstorm how you can CHANGE YOUR THINKING and begin to look for a SOLUTION to prevent that from being a part of your life.

Hey, it's YOUR list so don't worry about what anyone else might think about it. 

Is there something you can do to help IMPROVE the situation? (By the way, complaining to someone by saying, "You need to do this differently!" and not actually being a part of the solution doesn't accomplish much!) Is there something you MUST do to remove that negative situation in and for your life? 

Finally, maybe look at it in a way that could cause you to see if you can come up with a solution that would benefit many people in a way that you could actually build a business around it...instead of just continuing to complain about it.

And, as always..."Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

 

Mike

 

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Xcelerate Your Efforts! (Part 2 - The Mastermind)

 

(This article first appeared in December of 2009. It has been edited and updated)

In today's article I want to really encourage each of you to "brainstorm" ideas on how YOU can accelerate your efforts on your way to reaching your goals and dreams!

 

It's always nice (and easy) when someone points out specific things for us to do but, sometimes - if we are not careful - we get dependent on such things and fail to make any moves unless someone tells us to do so specifically. If we follow such a path, that path will never lead us to success.

 

Why? Because it is not YOUR path! We must all understand that suggestions and guidelines are just that ---- SUGGESTIONS and GUIDELINES! Get the point? They are suggestions for us to consider and apply to our own situations. Guidelines are the same way.

 

So, yes, take them into consideration and adapt them to your own situation, personality and plans --- but YOU must follow the path to YOUR dreams!

 

So (may I get blunt here?) - don't get lazy! THINK, DREAM and PLAN!

 

If you go back to the classic book, "Think & Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill, you will find that he talks several times about the importance of a "Mastermind Group". This is a group of like-minded people that get together to share their thoughts and to brainstorm together.

 

This is one way to LEVERAGE yourself - as we talked about in the last podcast and blog. When you get open minds together and they begin to share ideas without fear -- great things can happen! Instead of YOU thinking alone and trying to come up with ideas, etc. you have the benefit of OTHERS doing the same with you -- this is LEVERAGE! It's how you are able to "Xcelerate Your Efforts".

 

Mel Robbins, in a November 2009 article in Success magazine also discussed another way that I believe is a way to accelerate our efforts. In this particular article she discussed how she is open and aware to everyone around her and how she greets and talks to all of these people. From the moment that she drives into the parking garage at her work all the way through her day she talks to each of these people.  

She is "accelerating" her efforts by including these people in her life and by being genuinely interested in their lives and what is going on in their lives. She is also using the principle of leverage!

 

Anytime that you expand your circle of contacts and influence, you have accelerated your efforts and have put the principle of leverage into place.

 

Here's a promise - you will NEVER go wrong by opening your life up with others in this way. We ALL need people! This is not talking about "using" people just so you can get ahead....but, again, being genuinely interested in others. This will always come back to you in powerful ways, wouldn't you agree?

 

So, get with a group of like-minded people (your own "Mastermind Group") and begin to share thoughts and brainstorm. The energy that is shared and released will lift you up and encourage you (as well as all the others involved) to keep moving toward your goals and dreams. Ideas and thoughts will be shared that you may have never even thought about as well as having thoughts coming to mind simply due to the shared energy of the group.

 

YES, YOU CAN accelerate your efforts and put the principle of leverage to work in your life!

 

This can be one of the most exciting things that you have ever experienced in this journey -- check it out and see if this is not true for you. 

 

And, as always..."Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

 

Mike

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Xcelerate Your Efforts!

This podcast was first published on December 9, 2009. It has been edited and updated.

 

Yes, I know that the actual word is, "accelerate". But, at the time of this original posting, I was going through the alphabet for my blog article titles and, how many words do you know - that can be used in our "positive alphabet" start with the letter "X"? Xactly!

Dictionary.com defines the word "accelerate" in the following ways:

verb (used with object) 1. to cause faster or greater activity, development, progress, advancement, etc., 2. to hasten the occurrence of 3. Mechanics. to change the velocity of (a body) or the rate of (motion); cause to undergo acceleration.
4. to reduce the time required for (a course of study) by intensifying the work, eliminating detail, etc.

verb (used without object) 5. to move or go faster; increase in speed.
6. to progress or develop faster.

Now...let's clarify something with this definition - "to cause greater or faster activity" may be part of the definition of the word, "accelerate" but it is NOT what we are talking about in today's blog entry -- UNLESS that greater/faster activity is leading to results! You see, many times we can busy ourselves with activity and be making no progress at all. You know what I'm talking about. I've done it and you've done it. No one needs to explain that to you - you knew what was going on while you were doing it, right?

 

So, instead, let's look at definition 6 - "to progress or develop faster" - as a better definition of what I'm talking about today.

You know the problem, right? We talk, we plan, we talk, we plan some more, we plan and then we talk....get the picture? But, what's missing in this picture? DOING! ACTION!

 

Again, I'm NOT talking about moving without proper planning and preparation - but, sooner or later you have to MOVE into action!

 

Those of you that have kids, let me ask you this question: If you had waited until you could have AFFORDED to have kids - would you even have them today? Probably not!

 

You see, we cannot wait for everything to be in perfect alignment before we begin to make our move and take action toward the realization of our dreams, goals and desires.

 

The one main thing to keep in mind is the idea of "leverage". Now, to understand leverage you can consider many different examples.

   Example 1: the use of a lever to gain leverage - A lever is designed so that you can get more out of less. Less exertion on your part (due to the lever) is able to exert a greater amount of energy on the object. So, you are able to produce more with less.

   Example 2: the idea of using leverage in working. A teenage boy mows lawns for the summer. He does quite well and realizes that he has made good money doing this job. However, he realizes that he can only do 4 yards a day (if he is able to maintain his energy enough to do that and if the weather permits) X $30 per yard for a potential total of $120 per day. 

 

Not bad. IF the weather works in his favor and IF he can keep his energy up and IF he doesn't get sick. And, there are many more "ifs" to consider. He realizes that by getting other teens to work with him that he can get more business, more yards mowed and more money coming in. 

Yes, he knows that he must pay the largest percentage to the guy doing the mowing, yet HE can also get a part of each yard mowed for himself. MORE opportunity for MORE money with LESS work from himself - the very idea behind leverage. 

He still decides to mow 2 yards a day ($60) but he also has 8 other teens mowing yards and he is getting $5 per yard from each of those for an additional $40, which adds up to $100 per day. You may say, "Wait a minute, he's making $20 per day less!" Yes, he is, but he can also take the afternoon off and go swimming if he'd like OR he can mow one more yard OR he can involve a few more guys -- the leverage gives him CHOICE.

 

What can YOU do to leverage your efforts and, in so doing, "Xcelerate" your efforts?

 

Be thinking about that and be sure to listen to the podcast that goes along with this article (links below).

 

But, until then - BRAINSTORM for yourself and see what ideas YOU can come up with for yourself! After all, that's what this is about --- YOU and YOUR goals and dreams, right?

 

You can do it and I am here to help! Keep moving, keep growing, keep dreaming, keep improving your life and....all along the way, never forget to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike

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Want It MORE!

 

(This article first appeared on December 1, 2009. It has been edited and updated)

Obviously, when we use the word, "it" in today's title we are referring to your goals and dreams. Another way to approach this topic is to use the question that I've poised before, "What Are YOUR Dreams Worth?"

Are you afraid to move forward? Does the uncertainty of "being your own boss" or "doing your own thing" paralyze you with FEAR and keep you from making progress toward your goals and dreams?

Here's what you have to ask yourself: Which do you want more? The future that you have visualized and that you desire OR to stay where you are and remain there for the rest of your life - IF you're lucky enough to keep your job?

How bad do you want success? Yes, again, let me emphasize that "success" can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people - but we're talking about YOU and YOUR definition/idea of success in your own life! Don't worry about other people's definition and desire for success --- we're talking about YOU! How bad do you want it? What's it worth to you?

Do you want it bad enough to...

--> Keep going even when you get discouraged?

--> Keep going even when you are afraid of the unknown?

--> Keep going even when you come up against a road block?

-->Keep going even when there is no one there to cheer you on?

--> Keep going when some around you even try to discourage you from moving on with your goals and dreams?

Bottom line, do you want it bad enough to KEEP GOING?

Many people are afraid to take the risk of dreaming. However, you must decide if the risk is worth the reward? We all should be more afraid of NOT moving foward and of NOT improving our lives.

The EASY thing to do is to do NOTHING!

Yet, I want to suggest to you that there is no such thing as "doing nothing".

When you think you are doing NOTHING, you are doing SOMETHING! Notice this...

By DOING NOTHING, you are...

--> Surrendering to fear

--> Giving up on your dreams

--> Taking a step BACKWARDS (you will move one way or the other!)

--> Taking the lazy man's way out

--> Allowing others to control your destiny (and that is NOT your destiny!)

So, you see - there is no such thing as "doing nothing" - we are either moving FORWARD and making PROGRESS or we are sliding BACKWARDS and losing ground every single day.

Which do YOU want more?

No one can answer that and no one can decide that but you! It is YOUR choice - and it IS a choice!

I want to challenge you - encourage you - to want SUCCESS and MOVING FORWARD more than you want to maintain the status quo.

You can do it and I am here to help! Keep moving, keep growing, keep dreaming, keep improving your life and....all along the way, never forget to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike

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WRITE IT DOWN!

 

Is it IMPORTANT to write things down?

It really depends on how important it is/for YOU, right?  But, specifically, in the area of "personal development" or "positive mindset" and with the idea of DOING what needs to be done in order to make POSITIVE IMPROVEMENTS in and for your life...YES, it IS important to write some things down!

You'll pick these up that I'll be talking about in this article better by going and listening and/or watching this episode by going to my podcast or YouTube videos (all links are listed below) because, in them, I actually suggest on some things to...guess what? WRITE THEM DOWN! 

So, first and foremost, here's what I'm going to suggest that you get out a piece of paper or a notebook  and write down: 

 1. DO YOU WANT TO MAKE YOUR LIFE BETTER or are you SATISFIED WHERE YOU ARE? Write down the question and write down your HONEST answer to that question. Do you truly DESIRE to make that improvement or do you just like to TALK about it? (Go back and re-read some of the previous articles that talk about these things and the importance of what happens when you actually "DECIDE".)

2. WHAT DO YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO LOOK LIKE 1 YEAR FROM TODAY?  Get very specific on this. One "easy" way to do it is to write down what it is about your life that you DON'T like right now and then across from that, write down how you'd like that to be different.                                 For example: Starting on the left margin write: I'm tired of having nothing left at the end of the month after paying my bills" ----(then, to the right of this write something like) I want to be able to pay ALL my bills each month and have $1,000 left over (whatever amount YOU desire).

3. CAN I GET THERE IN 1 YEAR CONTINUING TO DO WHAT I'M DOING RIGHT NOW? If your answer is "yes' then you need to write down, specifically, why you're in the situation that you're in right now if you could keep doing that same thing and have that kind of improvement in 1 year.  If your is that, "no", you CAN'T keep doing the same thing and expect change then you MUST write down the next one...

4. ARE THERE THINGS I CAN DO ON MY OWN TO BEGIN MAKING THE CHANGE NECESSARY? The answer is likely, "Yes" on that part and then you need to right down those things that YOU CAN DO and begin doing them right away!                                                                                     Now then, write the things down that you know you CAN'T do and that you will admit that you need help with. 

Now, I'm going to stop on my end making suggestions on what you need to write down because, honestly, these first 4 questions are the foundation of you actually moving forward or staying put where you are. 

You see, if we think we can keep doing the same thing we're doing now and get different results then, friend, you've just described what many call the definition of "insanity".

Go back and listen to the podcast or watch the videos on some of the previous discussions to hear MORE that will HELP YOU - if you're willing to listen and DO - begin the process of moving forward. 

Friend, I'm here to help YOU and I like doing that by providing step-by-step things that you can follow and do BUT, you must be willing to DO them yourself and FOR yourself and those important to you. 

Will you? That decision lies squarely on your shoulders but...remember this, you don't have to approach this on your own. That's why I do what I do...to help YOU in the process.

Will you join me? Let me hear from you because I have more things coming in the very near future that will do exactly - step by step - what we're talking about here but you must start NOW getting your mindset ready and prepared to start taking those necessary steps.  

As always, THANKS for joining me today and, please, share this with as many as possible and always be sure to keep moving forward, closer to your dream!

And, until next time, whatever you do,  be sure to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike

 

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