"RELATIONSHIPS: An Extension of YOUI'd like to mention something about the picture used above and how it relates to our topic. You can see four pictures of me - the same person but, yet, each picture is different than the other.
So it is as we deal with the different relationships in our lives. WE are the same person yet, we are perceived differently with each relationship that we have in our lives. Now, let's move on to the topic for today.
And, regardless of what TYPE of relationship we are discussing (check out person, mailman, parking attendant or best friend) we leave our "fingerprints" on each and every one.
Wow, think about that for a moment!
Sometimes we think these "outer ridge" relationships don't really matter. You know, the ones that we discussed yesterday when we talked about taking the time to acknowledge those that we do come into contact with on a semi-regular basis or a regular basis such as a parking attendant.
We can fall into the trap (and lie) that how we treat these people doesn't really matter. After all, they don't really know us anyway, right?
WRONG!
They DO know you by your actions! Who you SAY you are is not as revealing as who you SHOW you are. Now there's an ugly truth to think about.
We want to think that if these people in that "outer ridge" of our relationships think the wrong thing about us (according to who?) then it's because they don't really know the "real" us.
Oh? Perhaps they DO know the "real" you more than you care to admit.
You leave your "fingerprint" on every person that you come into contact with during each and every day. Like it or not, this is true.
Think about this as well - for most of these people this is the ONLY impression that they have of you. Now, based on that, what impression do they have of YOU?
In my opinion, more than anything else, how you treat those in this category defines who we are more than anything you want to believe or want others to believe.
It is your "fingerprint". It is your "identification" of who you really are.
If you are not satisfied with the "fingerprint" that you have been leaving behind why not make a change starting TODAY?
Unlike our own physical fingerprints we CAN actually "change" this "fingerprint" that we leave behind.
It's your move.
Until next time...
"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"
Mike
www.MichaelSpillman.com
I think those Outer rim relationships can be very important especially if we are so busy with our regular life that we don't have any close personal friends.
ReplyDeleteI have one of those faces that looks grumpy if I don't smile, so when I am out and about, usually shopping for groceries or running errands, I try and put on a smile. I not only want people to perceive me as nice but I also know it can be contagious. I also like to look for opportunities to help out strangers. I have offered to load heavy items into cars for people, some say yes, some say no. I have also helped a couple people find their car in the Walmart parking lot.....I look for the "lost" look. I hope they will pass on the spirit I have left.
AWESOME! Keep up sharing the smiles and the help, Tanya! You are SO right when you say a smile is "contagious".
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