Tuesday, December 9, 2014

The Need to Tame the Tongue


"We can make a large horse go wherever we want by means of a small bit in its mouth.  And a small rudder makes a huge ship turn wherever the pilot chooses to go, even though the winds are strong. In the same way, the tongue is a small thing that makes grand speeches.
But a tiny spark can set a great forest on fire." (James 3: 3 - 5; NLT)
 
Have YOU ever lost control of YOUR tongue? I could be wrong but I think I can answer that question for you with a "Yes". Am I right?
 
Most all of us - if NOT all of us - have said things that, almost immediately, we wish we could take back. And, at other times, it may take a few days or even weeks before that regret sets in. But, the fact is, once said, words cannot be "unsaid".
 
I heard the following story several years ago and it points out just how hard it is to try to recapture words once they are spoken. It seems that a man, in a  moment of frustration, said some negative and even untrue things about a person who had been a friend. This man was so angry and frustrated that he told three or four other people. After about a day, he began to regret what he had said and decided to visit the village wise man to seek advice on what he should do. The wise man instructed the fellow to go to each door of those he told the falsehood to, knock on the door and ask who all they shared what he had said. The wise man instruced the gentleman to do this at all three or four people's homes that he had told and then he was to place a feather on the doorstep of each of those people along with the steps of those with whom the story had been shared. At each of these houses he was to also ask if they had shared the story with others and, do the same thing at each of those houses. He soon found that he had placed feathers on the doorsteps of houses all over the town.
As instructed, he returned to visit the wise man the very next day to find out what else he needed to do to try to make this mistake right. His heart fell as the wise man instruced him to now go back and collect all of the feathers that had been placed on the doorsteps. The man expressed his despair since this would be an impossible task due to light winds taking place overnight.
"So it is with your words once spoken." explained the wise man. "They spread beyond your ability to ever recapture what has been said."
 
We can use all kinds of excuses by saying things like, "I just speak before I think!" which, in reality, cannot be true. You cannot speak it unless you think it first.
 
The problem is CONTROL.
 
The way to control your speech is to control your thoughts. And, the way to control your thoughts is to constantly absorb as much positive information as possible. 

You control your thoughts which, in turn, can help control your words.

Yeah, I know...easier said than done. Still yet, the goal is to THINK before it's "said and done".

Until next time...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike

Sunday, December 7, 2014

Promote the POSITIVE!


In a world full of negativity, why would you EVER want to promote ANYTHING but positive influence? Whether it be thoughts, spoken or written words or even posts on your preferred social media outlet...why would you want to do anything else?
 
Many of us would like to think that we would never participate or promote anything of a negative nature yet, many of us do just that.
 
Would you like to do a little experiment? Check your posts on your preferred social media page over the past few months Seriously, take the time to take a look and see what you find.
 
I have been guilty as well...especially during the recent mid-term elections in the political arena. I like to think that I caught myself on this and backed off on such activity and I hope that, if you find that you have promoted negative thoughts and ideas, you'll do the same.
 
This really came to the forefront for me just yesterday. A "connection" of mine on my personal social media page posted a video that did nothing but promote continued hype that is so prevalent in our media at this time. Instead of promoting positive information (or even just refraining from ANY additional input on the topic), they chose to add to the negativity surrounding this hyped up topic.
 
I don't need or want to see or read this type of negativity and I sure don't want it on my social media page for others to see or read so I "got rid of them", which prohibited them from posting anything further on my page.
 
Extreme action? Some might think so but, for me, it demonstrates how serious I am about such negativity.
 
Here's the simple message for today, friend: PROMOTE THE POSITIVE and leave the rest alone.
 
This applies on your social media pages as well as your workplace, your relationship with your friends and, yes, even your family.
 
Try this approach this week and see what happens.
 
Determine - beginning today, for a week - that you will not promote, repeat or share ANYTHING that is negative in any way.
 
You will find that this is more difficult than you might first imagine but, it can be done. It's a challenge that you CAN face and achieve.
 
You will find other helpful aides as you go through the rest of this week reading the coming blog articles as well as listening to the podcasts. (I'm changing to a Monday, Wednesday and Friday format now).
 
Friend, the world needs you to do this and show others that it can be done.
 
Start NOW and check your progress at the end of the day.
 
Until next time, be sure to...
 
"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"
 
Mike

Wednesday, December 3, 2014

2014: All But Done

 
As hard as it is to believe, 2014 is all but done. Over. Complete. Finished. Gone, baby, gone!

I know I'm not the only one that has a hard time believing this to be true, right? As is often said, "Where has the time gone?"

Now, don't miss this point - the year isn't over YET...it's just getting really close!

What does that mean for you?

Let's get real here: If you set out to lose 50 lbs. over the year and you've lost 25, you DO realize, don't you, that you're not going to lose 25 more lbs. over the course of this month. But, that doesn't mean that you just give up since you're not going to reach that initial goal.

As you look over the past year, don't forget to pay attention to what you HAVE accomplished over the past year. Do NOT focus only on where you fell short. That is a HUGE mistake to make.

Pay close attention to the three previous articles and, especially to the quotes that you find in each of them. Notice that none of them say "quit" or "give up". They all emphasize the need to "stay the course" no matter how slowly you have progressed.

I'm not done with December yet...neither or you!

Enjoy this time of the year and all that it brings and, until next time, be sure to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike

Tuesday, December 2, 2014

Surround Yourself With the Positive

- graphic from Dave Ramsey -
 
Sooner or later you will find the words in the above graphic to be true.
 
No matter how much you want them to NOT be true or no matter how much you don't want to believe this to be true about the people that surround you...it is still true.

Negativity can disguise itself in all kinds of ways, too! Sometimes the most "negative" people are disguised in friendship and "I only want what's best for you" thoughts. It's around us each and every day and we must do all that we can to surround ourselves with the positive...people and/or thoughts.

Sometimes this is difficult to do when you are surrounded by negative people...like at work. However, if you determine to be the "thermostat" and not the "thermometer" you may find that the negativity begins to disappear.

What do I mean?


 
 
A thermostat DICTATES the temperature in a room. It either raises or lowers the temperature in the room while the termometer REFLECTS the temperature that has been set by the thermostat.

There are "thermometer people" all around us and you may be one as well. These are the people that "reflect" whatever the attitude around them may be. If people around them are happy then they are more likely to be happy (even though truly negative people are negative regardless of their surroundings). If the mood around them is negative, "thermometer people" will likely just follow along and have the same negative attitude.

You, however, could be a "thermostat" person that helps dictate or "set the temperature" for your workplace. You may be surprised at how quickly the "temperature" of the room begins to change due to your positive attitude!

And remember, your positive attitude comes from - or is aided by - the positive information that you put into your heart and mind throughout the day. Things such as this blog and my podcast are examples of information that you can absorb each and every day that will help you in this process.

Hey, even if you haven't reached the goals that you set for yourself this year, remain POSITIVE in your approach and your review of the past year. Your positive attitude will allow you to understand that, again, progress is progress, even if it is slower than you initially planned.

Thermostat or thermometer? You decide.

And, as you do so, be sure to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike

Monday, December 1, 2014

Refuse to Give Up!


I got this graphic from a post by Brian Tracy and wanted to share it with you and make a few comments on it as well.

If you've not had a chance to read the last article, take a moment and do so...it sets up the thoughts for this weeks series of articles. The main focus - as stated in the last article - of these articles this week is ENCOURAGEMENT.

Why do I feel such a need to encourage you? Well, with this being the last month of 2014, I know that many of you are feeling a huge amount of pressure to "finish strong".

Sometimes we - or others - can put so much pressure on ourselves to "finish strong" that we can "crumble" and just give up. Again, read the last article and get caught up on this thought.

Notice what the graphic above states: "...as long as you do not stop."

"Going slow" is still "going", right? There is still movement and action. There is still progress. Sure, it's slow but, do you remember the tale of the Turtle and the Hare?

You've read it from me and you've heard it from me as well...Don't give up, don't you EVER give up!

Listen, I understand the whole idea behind "pushing" to get the best out of ourselves and/or others but, I also understand that this can actually have an adverse effect as well.

Honestly take a look at the whole process that you have taken toward your goals - whatever they are. Whether it is weight loss, job promotion, better relationships, financial improvement or, again, whatever it is. Be honest with yourself and try to pinpoint some things such as:
     * Did I "bite off more than I can chew" for the time period? (Example: Did I set a goal to lose 200 pounds over the 12 months of 2014? How realistic is that goal?)
     * Now that I've gone through most of this year working toward my goal, is the goal what I really want? No, I'm not talking about quitting but I am talking about being honest with yourself in determining the strength of your "why". Your "why" (as you may discover) may be based on what someone else wants FOR you and not yours at all.
     * If you decide to keep working toward that goal, are you going to set more realistic - yet, steady - expectations for your progression?

Again, just relax. Don't stress out...that doesn't help this situation in any way. Take a breath, honestly review the past year and, as you do so, always be sure to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike