The Key to Happiness (Part 2)

Have you taken the time to jot down your ideas on what we talked about in the last article? If not (and if you didn't read the last article) go back and spend a little time answering those questions. Doing so will help make this series personal and it will also allow you to apply these things to your own situation a lot more specifically.

ARE YOU HAPPY?

Again, if you've not done so, go back and read the last article for the introductory thoughts to what we will be talking about in this article.

DO NOT PLACE YOUR HAPPINESS IN THE HANDS OR LIVES OF OTHERS!

This is the main point for this article - PEOPLE can not make you happy. Let that soak in!

You may have found yourself saying (and you will hear others say it as well), "You make me so happy!" or "(Name of person) makes me SO happy!" And, on the other side, you may also say or hear, "You make me so mad!" or "(Name of person) makes me SO mad!"

I remember seeing a young man comment on a social media page, "I wish I could find the right girl to make me happy." I replied to this young man, "If that is what you are waiting for, you will be waiting a LONG time."

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Let me clarify a little. I know that many of you don't quite understand what I'm saying here because you may be thinking, "But my spouse/kids/grandchildren/friends DO make me happy!"

 

People can bring "feelings" of happiness to your life and people can add to the component of your life that brings about happiness but NO ONE PERSON can "make" you happy or unhappy.

 

Read that again - maybe slowly and maybe more than once - and let it sink in.

 

Let's notice a few things about this idea:

     1. If a person can "make" you happy, if they leave your life either by death or by choice, are you doomed to a life of unhappiness?

     2. Is it not unfair to put this much "responsibility" for OUR happiness on others?

     3. Your happiness - created by YOU - might very well bring joy into the lives of those around you which, in turn, may create even more feelings of joy and happiness into your OWN life!

 

Now for a quick "break down" of those three points, o.k.?

 

1. Yes, I do understand that others can bring about feelings of joy and even peace into your life. Yes, this DOES add to the overall component in your life that can add to your joy, pleasure and contentment (see definition for happiness in the last article). But you can NOT rely on those people to be responsible for your own happiness.

 

Have you ever been disappointed by any of these people? Have they ever frustrated you? Discouraged you? Brought about feelings of anger in you? The answer to all of those questions is very likely to be "YES!".  So, yes, they can have an impact upon our "feelings", but they cannot - and we should not expect them to - "make us" happy or unhappy.

 

And, yes, I DO understand that the loss (either by death or other means) of having someone in your life can be heart-breaking. I understand that this kind of loss can bring about much pain and despair. Again, they made up part of the overall component of your life that brought about joy, pleasure and contentment in your life. They were a PART of your happiness.

 

But also understand that you are NOT now confined to a life of misery and unhappiness. It may be difficult, but you can and will find other areas of your life that can help fill that void in your life that will bring joy, pleasure and contentment into your life.

 

2. It IS unfair to put the responsibility of your happiness on others. Many couples fight over this and even divorce over this very thing. "But you're supposed to make me happy!" whines one to the other.  Perhaps this disillusionment came from one promising the other, "I will ALWAYS make you happy!".

 

That's a nice thought but it's an impossible promise to keep. Easy to make, impossible to keep.

 

So, on either side, it is unfair to expect someone else to be responsible for your happiness and, friend, it is unfair and unrealistic for you to think that you are responsible for the happiness of another.

 

3. WE are responsible for our own happiness. Those that have joy, pleasure and contentment as a part of their life very likely will draw others to them. Yes, others can "feed off" of that contentment and joy and, in turn, increase their own levels of those feelings and emotions.

 

Happiness must come from within. True contentment can only come from YOU and what YOU hold in your heart. Make sense? True contentment understands that others WILL disappoint us and, yes, even frustrate us but that contentment will never allow that to DESTROY us.

 

Now, don't take this the wrong way, especially if you have lost a loved one in death. I'm not trying to be "cold-hearted" about this but, it still applies, even in that situation. Here it is: True contentment and happiness comes with the understanding that your worth and value is not dependent upon another person.

 

YOU are special and YOU hold the key to understanding your true value.

 

I know that it is painful at times but, friend, it is still true.

 

So, as you go about writing down your answers to the question, "What makes me happy?", don't write down the names of others. Maybe there are things ABOUT those people that bring about the feeling of joy and happiness but that person, alone, is not responsible for your happiness.

 

Thank you for taking the time to read this article and, as always, I also want to encourage you to listen to the podcast (see the links below) and to also share both with as many people as possible. You just never know when what is read or said is exactly what someone needs on a particular day.

 

Until next time, be sure to...

 

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

 

Mike

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The Key to Happiness Is...

The following is from the opening  of the United States Declaration of Independence:

 

"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness. That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed..."

 

Although this is from a document for the United States, the following statement applies to EVERYONE, regardless of where they live: "Happiness is NOT a guarantee, nor is it a right of life!"

 

One can PURSUE happiness (and, in the U.S.A., that pursuit IS a right) but that does not mean that one is guaranteed to find and possess happiness.

 

This "pursuit of happiness" is something that seems to occupy a lot of time in people's lives as well as occupying a lot of space in written material.

 

Dictionary.com defines "happiness" as:

     1. the quality or state of being happy;  2. good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy.

 

This definition would cause us to have to look at the definition give for the word, "happy:

     1. delighted, pleased, or glad, as over a particular thing: to be happy to see a person.

     2. characterized by or indicative of pleasure, contentment, or joy: a happy mood; a happy frame of

         mind.

So, when considering your "pursuit of happiness", WHAT IS IT that you seek?  Is it "good fortune"? Pleasure? Contentment? Joy?

What does "happiness" mean to/for you?

There are many answers to that question but, for the most part, there is but ONE answer for YOU! Now, there may be more than one "answer" that comes to mind when you consider what this means for you but, I'm convinced, that even these other "answers" will still revolve around one central thought for you.

Why do I bring that part up? Simple. What others define as "happiness" may not be YOUR definition and it may not be what would make YOU happy.

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You see, too often, we find ourselves trying to "live up to" other people's ideas of happiness. Make sense? We observe others and we usually make an assumption about what it is that seems to make them happy.

 

Sometimes, those that we observe may not be as happy as we think they are! Or, if they ARE, indeed, happy, we may be completely wrong in our assumption of what it is that makes them happy.

 

HERE'S WHAT I WANT YOU TO DO AS WE START THIS SERIES:

 

* I want to ask that you take the time to consider what all of this means for your life. Get out a piece of paper and jot down your thoughts so that you can come back to them later on.

 

* Specifically, would you consider yourself "happy"? Maybe even use a scale of 1 (miserable) - 10 (you couldn't be any happier!) and place yourself along that scale. I do understand that this may even change from day to the next but, overall, where would you place yourself on that scale?

 

* What do you think would make you even happier than you are now? Write it down.

 

* Do you think that most others that you know (in your circle of friends) are happier than you are?

 

* If so, what is it that you think makes them happy?

 

* Go to the FYU Fanpage on Facebook and share your thoughts and comments as we go through this series - but go ahead and start now!

 

Thanks and I look forward to sharing out thoughts together as we continue with this series on "Happiness".

 

Until then, whatever you do, always be sure to...

 

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

 

Mike

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Join Me on This Journey?

 

What Have YOU Spent $20 (U.S.) On This Week?

 

Many of you know that, from time to time, I check out different "opportunities" out there and, for the most part, I've been very disappointed in what I have found.

 

As a matter of fact, very soon I'm going to specifically mention two different "opportunities" that are flat-out scams. Yes, I will make sure you know EXACTLY what/who they are and why I say they are scams.

 

NOW THEN...

 

I've still always believed - even KNOWN - that there ARE "real" opportunities to make money and even a living doing something online. I know for a fact that there are people that do it every single day.

 

The problem is making your way through that "mine field" of all of the scams that are out there.

 

Now, let me say this up front: I do not know 100% how this opportunity I'm sharing with you in this article will turn out. I'm not going to promise anything or even suggest anything, as far as results.

 

Sound o.k. to you?

 

As a matter of fact, I'm even going to suggest to you that, when you watch the video that I have a link to below, that you not pay any attention to the "big numbers" that are presented as possibilities in the video. O.k.?

 

Here's the few things I DO want to mention to you and ask that you consider seriously:

     1. This is only a ONE TIME cost of $18 "out of pocket". You heard me right. This is not a "beginning cost" at some basic level that isn't worth two cents. (The video will explain how this works for you). Can you put more money into it? Sure you can. Some people, for example, put more $$ into it for advertising. I don't plan to do that - at least not for now - and you don't have to either. That would be 100% up to you. (That's why I have that $20 bill up at the top. Do you realize how quickly most of us spend $20?)

     2. What if it takes longer than the few weeks that is talked about in the video? WHO CARES? What if it took you a year to even reach the $100k amount, would that be o.k. with you? What if it even took two years to do that? Would that really matter to you? But, WHAT IF you were able to reach even that amount quicker than a year or two?

     3. As you'll see in the video, you're not trying to sell something or keep someone using something. It's simple and, the way I'm looking at it, THIS CAN BE A LOT OF FUN getting others involved and then watching this thing grow. LOOK AT HOW SMALL THE "RISK" IS!!!

     4. The "spill over effect" will help you fill up your spaces. Enough said about that. :)

     5. THIS IS GLOBAL! This is NOT limited to the United States so, those of you that are reading this from other countries (and I know I have a lot of people that do) should be able to participate.

     6. You don't have to "take care" of all the people that sign up under you or that get placed under you. NO BABYSITTING!

 

So, anyway, I'd love it if you'd at least take a look. Ask me questions and I'll do the best I can to answer them but, if you watch carefully, I think you'll find most questions answered.

 

Are you ready to have some FUN while having the possibility to actually make some real money online? Then, after you've watched the video, sign up with me and we'll ride this train together!

 

Here's the link...remember, WHAT IF?

 

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The Other Side of Fear

I hope that, through this discussion over the past few articles and podcasts, you've come to realize how important it is to face, fight and move past fear so that you can move forward with your life.

 

Fear robs us of joy, peace and promise.

 

JOY:

By being paralyzed by fear, we often worry about things that never even happen. We've discussed that fact in the past few articles but it still can be a problem  When we fail to reach out and experience love and new experiences we miss out on many things that can bring joy to our lives.

Stop allowing fear to rob your life of joy!

 

PEACE:

Fear and worry cannot co-exist with peace. Guess what is on the "other side" of fear and worry? PEACE! When you stop fearing the worst, you begin to expect the best. When you stop wasting time with worry you begin to enjoy your time, filled with peace.

Stop allowing fear to rob your life of peace!

 

PROMISE:

Facing, fighting and removing fear from your life will allow you to step out into the hope of PROMISE. The promise of something better. The promise of life free from worry and full of joy and peace. The promise of enriched relationships in all areas of your life.

Remember, fear is a liar and there is no joy, peace hope or promise in a lie. Stop living (if you can call it that) a life full of fear and begin to LIVE LIFE as it was meant to be.

Stop allowing fear to rob your life of promise!

 

Here's the kicker: some of you - even as you read the last three paragraphs - are still doubting this to be true for you. You are still fearful with thoughts of, "That all sounds good, Mike, but what if this is not true for me?" That is FEAR speaking to you and through you, friend.

 

STOP LISTENING TO FEAR, STOP "LIVING" FEAR once and for all!

 

Just imagine what you will find on "the other side" of fear.

 

Take that step and find out, friend. You'll be glad that you did and those around you will be glad as well.

 

Thank you for spending this time with me. I'd love to hear your feedback and thoughts on this series, especially with you putting your comments on the fan page on Facebook (click here or the link below).

 

Until next time, whatever you do, as you face, fight and conquer fear, be sure to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike

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If You Were Not Afraid

If you weren't afraid of ANYTHING - and I mean ANYTHING - what would you do?

Really, take a moment and give that question some serious thought. Why? Because, as I've been discussing in the past couple of articles, FEAR keeps us from experiencing so many things IN our life as well as keeping us from enjoying so MUCH of our life.

Take a look at your relationships or at the relationships that you wish that you had. What if you weren't afraid? What if you weren't afraid of getting hurt? (The only way to "not get hurt" is to not connect with people and, friend, that hurts, too!). Are you afraid of loving "too much"? What if you lost that fear and you began to love without fear? What would happen? What could be?

Take a look at your job. What if you weren't afraid of being taken advantage of? What if you weren't afraid of messing up? What if, instead, you did your best - without fear or worry - and you just worked as "the best you" that you could. I wonder what might happen? What if you weren't afraid of others "getting ahead" or getting the credit? What if you just became the person that did their best, without fear?

What if opportunity presented itself in that job and you weren't afraid to take that next step? What if you believed strongly enough in you and your abilities that - without fear - you began to believe in yourself as much as the one that offered you the promotion? What might be possible?

What if you were no longer afraid to pursue your dreams? What if you were no longer afraid of failing? What if you were no longer afraid of someone saying, "I told you so" if you did fail?

Again, what if you begin to believe in yourself and stopped being afraid to do so?

How would you live? Would your life improve? Would your attitude improve?

Just imagine how your relationships - ALL of your relationships - would improve and become more meaningful.

Just imagine.

Life without fear.

Think about that. Dream about that. Brainstorm about that. Write it down and dare - without fear - to take action.

What if you did? What if you do?

What will happen WHEN you do?

There are more questions than statements in this article. But, friend, it is because your freedom - TRUE freedom - depends on your answer to that one, all important question...

"What would you do if you weren't afraid?"

I'd love to get your thoughts on that. Leave them here or on the FYU fanpage on Facebook.

Dare to live, friend, dare to live.

And, as you do so, always be sure to...

"Make it an AWESOME day! (Who else is going to do it for you?)"

Mike

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